What were you thinking?

Posted by: Nikki   
October 20th,
2006

If you frequently surf my blog, you know that I talk about my little cousins Jalen and Tyson all the time. They, along with their older brother Jonathan, are the closest thing I have to being my own children.

Well, I found out this morning that Jalen and Tyson are going to have a new baby brother. That will make 4 boys for my cousin and her husband. I should be happy for them, right? Well, I’m not.

Don’t get me wrong, I love children, but my cousin and her husband have been having problems for the past year and she was on the verge of asking for divorce, but now she’s pregnant with her 4th child.

Her husband wasn’t half talking care of the first 3, so why allow yourself to get pregnant with the 4th when you know he ain’t doing shit as a husband, nor as a father. Sure, he spends time with his sons………………..after he shoots hoops all day or play Playstation. Then like an hour before he goes to work at night, that’s the time he gives to the boys. What the fuck?

Now why would you bring a 4th child into that madness? My family and I take care of those boys more than he does. I take it upon myself to help buy them clothes for school, take them to and fro to school, the doctor, etc. when my cousin is working and can’t get off.

I just don’t see how you say that you’re the only one doing something within the marriage and you want a divorce, but yet you allow yourself to keep sleeping with this man and get pregnant. Help me to understand this?

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9 Responses for "What were you thinking?"

did she tell you they were reconciling? that’s a sticky situation. when i filed for divorce, i never went back. maybe she is thinking having him there is for the best, regardless of the situation. however he sounds pretty absent anyway. i hope she knows what she’s doing.

*sigh* I hope you let her know how you feel.

Yanno, there’s some people who think if they keep cranking out babies, bruva man won’t go anywhere. Dayum that! That’s too much garbage to tolerate from one person…

I hope she’s prepared for whatever.

Damn.. that’s an unfortunate situation miss Nikki. I hope that it works out well for them in the end as a new life is about to come into this world within the next several months…

it happens i guess but it shouldnt

Wow, you’re right about that. Sometimes even when you want a divorce I guess people feel their spouse is safer sex or rather more convenient sex than not getting any. I don’t know. 4 kids is a lot to handle solo. Heck, one is a lot.

I bet she doesn’t even know what she was thinking at the time! Bringing a child in an unstable relationship sure won’t save that relationship.

My husband and I say always its hard to be the responsible ones in the family…

Then I remember no its actually easier..
Less complications…

My husbands brother lives at home at 49 with is 2 year old child.. While the mother is in prison…. She as 9 kids with 9 different johns or pimps…

Its not pretty but it takes us all now to make sure that child does not fall in the same situation….

It takes everyone doing a little extra now.. You are committed to your family so you will do more then others..
Its your nature……..How your mother raised you..
Responsible….
See the difference.. She wasn’t thinking … You would have…..

I know how you feel. My parents have been married for 26 years and I often wonder why, because they’ve always had problems. Luckily, it was only me and my brother in that mess, and now we’re grown and out the house, and I keep telling them for their health and sanity to let it burn, but do they listen to me?

And I have two cousins who have a father that doesn’t do nothing for them, yet the oldest boy worships the ground that man walks on. We won’t disparage his father in front of him, but we hope and pray that he sees the light one day. Keep your head up, and hopefully there will be light at the end of this tunnel.

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