I’m Leaving, Baby

Posted by: Nikki

August 27th,
2007

It really hurts to let go of someone that you love. It’s not something that I want to do, but it is something that I have to do. We’re just moving in two different directions, not with just our careers, but in other aspects of our relationship as well. I want to have kids. He doesn’t.

He’s been married and has a daughter as a result of that marriage. He’s expressed interest in marriage with me, but doesn’t want to have any kids. I don’t have any children of my own, and would at least like to have the opportunity to have one. And I’ve known about him not wanting any more kids since the day we started dating, but that wasn’t a factor, because we’d just started dating. Marriage was the last thing on my mind.

And as the relationship progressed and seemed like it may be going to the next level, that started to concern me. I should have nipped the relationship in the bud earlier, but because I’ve had a history with this man, being friends for nearly 8 years, I thought things may change. Not in a sense that I’d try to change him, but thinking that perhaps he would see it from my point of view as well.

So it is because of this, that I can no longer continue this relationship. It’s like that old song, I’m Leaving Baby, by Con Funk Shun where Michael Cooper laments, “I’m leaving you for me.” In other words, in order to help me, I have to leave you.

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23 Responses for "I’m Leaving, Baby"

Luke Cage

August 27th, 2007 at 10:50 am

Dayum Nikki…. (holding head down & sighing)

Amn.eris

August 27th, 2007 at 11:12 am

Girl it is like that sometimes. You have to save you.

melette

August 27th, 2007 at 11:20 am

Damn. I know it’s going to work out.

Safa

August 27th, 2007 at 11:48 am

You definitely have to look out for yourself and your future!

Honest

August 27th, 2007 at 11:55 am

Dang Nikki, I’m sorry to read that but you do have the keep your head up and do what you think is right for you.

Butta

August 27th, 2007 at 1:45 pm

Aw man, Nik. This sucks to hear but ultimately you have to be happy. I’ll keep you in prayer, sis.

August 27th, 2007 at 3:07 pm

Sorry to hear this, but glad that you are moving toward your ultimate happiness.

Paula D.

August 27th, 2007 at 3:26 pm

Awwww! I know it hurts like hell, but you have to look out for your best interests…….Easier said than done……
Take care

jdid

August 27th, 2007 at 4:15 pm

sorry to hear this. that sucks

courtney

August 27th, 2007 at 6:16 pm

*sigh* no es bueno.
It’ll be alright though…it will…

Kim

August 27th, 2007 at 8:37 pm

Sorry, Nikki.

I’ve been there. Know that while it’s hard and it hurts, it’s for the best. In a way, you should be proud of yourself for recognizing that, having the courage to move on and not sacraficing yourself.

panache aka coppercoloredgal

August 27th, 2007 at 10:14 pm

thank you…

i have been contimplating and feelling a bit guilty for ending the relationship i was in….and you have put it into reseaonable positive words that i now understand why i did it. “I’m leaving you for me.”

Aziza

August 27th, 2007 at 10:25 pm

Nikki, I’m sorry to hear about your breakup. But I also wish you much happiness.

Tiki

August 28th, 2007 at 6:22 am

Awwwww Nik. I’m sorry. You’re right tho. Your hearts desire wins hands down, and you did what you needed to do for you. *hugs*

Okay now where’s your freak ‘em dress at, Woman?

Amadeo

August 28th, 2007 at 7:57 am

I won’t express sorrow on your behalf, but rather congratulations. Many people cause problems in their own lives cause they don’t have the strength to walk away from a situation that won’t be what they want. If you regret, remember the strength you showed.

Lashundra

August 28th, 2007 at 12:01 pm

i’m sorry to hear about this breakup but you know what is best for you. be strong, it will be okay.

Prodigal Sun

August 28th, 2007 at 6:01 pm

So you single now? What you doin on Thursday? (hee hee) Just tryin to make you giggle…

This reminds me of the same storyline on Girlfriends. Doesnt that dude change his mind and come back? So you never know.

Sacrificing children is a huge thing. But taking on the responsibility of another life is equally as big. There is no right answer. Just whats right for you. You are still young and beautiful and have time to pop out some kiddies. It’s best that you made this decision now, instead of looking back and regretting it when its too late.

princessdominique

August 28th, 2007 at 6:06 pm

Wow. I’m sorry to hear that. Hugs.

Sharon

August 28th, 2007 at 11:08 pm

Nikki,

You know I feel you on this post, so nothing more needs to be said relative to how hard this is. However, I will share that I believe you are making the best possible decision if this is about whether or not you have a child. I don’t believe motherhood is for everyone, but any woman who has that internal desire to be a mother should not forego it for any reason. You know from my blog that in my opinion, nothing that I have done or accomplished brings more pride, joy, nor satisfaction than being my son’s mother has and I would hate to see you miss your chance to experience a similar feeling in your life. We will both get through this time and come out stronger, happier, and better off on the other side.

aquababie

August 29th, 2007 at 11:56 am