My cousin brought me around the other girl only once… He told me we were going for a drive, we end up at some girls house… my dumb azz didn’t even pick up that they were kicking it until the conversation became obvious and they kissed as we left. Literally, the conversation took place on the street with her leaning into the car all of 10-15 minutes. I cursed my cousin out, and told him he is fukked up. And not to bring me around it anymore. Being that he was blood, I didn’t tell his girl. But when the shyt hit the fan, and his girl talked to the homewrecker, the homewrecker mentioned meeting me…

If you could have seen the look of heartbreak on my cousin’s girl’s face… I felt horrible. She looked more hurt from me, cause given my cousin’s history, he was capable of this. But she never dreamed I would cosign. Keeping my mouth shut about one random 15 minute meeting through a car window changed our relationship permanently and I lost a great friend.

I’m not sure what exactly I would do, but I know for sure I could not continue to look the wife in the eye knowing what I did. I would have no choice but to distance myself from the family period or tell her husband that if he continued to put his bizness in my face, it would become his wife’s bizness. The fact is, as jacked up as the situation is, the husband is victimizing his friend in addition to his wife. By doing this on his Boys Nights, he is forcing his friend into an uncomfortable situation and therefore deserves a bit of discomfort of his own making!

Final analysis, remove oneself from the situation or change the situation itself by dealing with it head-on starting with the hubby and ending with wifey if necessary. Those are the only options that would allow me to look me in the eye.

But if you want to leave some bread crumbs so she can find her own way… hey.

He could also just do away with the friendships, but that’s not what’s best either. But definitely do not go tell dude’s wife. That’s drama waiting to happen.

Dont think I’d tell the wife though cause there is just so much that could go wrong there. Unless you have photos of your man buck nekkid bang bang bang like john witherspoon said in boomerang then I’d probably try to just let it all unfold without getting involved. Thats pretty sad to say when I think about it but like I said just way too much drama that could happen there

Personally without having proof I’ve told sistas that dudes were bums and were ignored…only to have the dude demonstrate himself as a bum. The only times things have worked out well is when the sistas asks my opinion first.

My husband cut off contact with his cheating friend. That hurt his boy, because they were…..boys. He didn’t really know the wife, but it was principle for him. His thing was that eventually he’d get caught up and expect my husband to lie for him, when and if questioned by his wife. It was definitely a matter of when, not if, because the woman wasn’t stupid.

To the brother, that’s gotta be hard because I’m sure had he KNOWN dude was going to throw caution (AND commitment for that matter) to the wind, he never would’ve intro’d them in the first place.