I attended the funeral of my oldest aunt’s husband on yesterday. After most funerals, my family usually gathers at the home of the bereaved family for the repast and to socialize with family members we haven’t seen in a while.

Well, on this day, my family was chatty as usual, but some of the elder females in the family, in their late 60’s to early 70’s, started to question 4 of my female cousins and I as to why we weren’t married with kids. In fact, one of them actually asked us if we were we gay.

Why is it that if a woman is single with no kids and in her 30’s or early 40’s, she has to be gay in the eyes of some people? From time to time, I’ve even gotten this on occasion from people, “What are you waiting on? You’re getting older you know, and pretty soon you won’t be able to have kids.”

I have 3 male cousins and a brother who also are not married and have no kids, but they don’t get this same grilling by the elderly female members of the family. Why are we singled out and not them? What’s wrong with me focusing on my career, then wanting to settle down?

I’ve seen too many divorces from friends and family members who have married and had children early in their lives. It’s not for everyone. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a child or two, but until God is ready for me to do so, I will wait.