One of my mother’s sister, age 74, is getting married this Saturday. She’s divorced and a widow, so this will make her 3rd marriage. She’s marrying one of her classmates (also age 74) whom she reunited with at a mass class reunion a couple of years ago.

Well, some relatives and friends decided to throw my aunt a lingerie party, because she’d had some lingerie stolen from her earlier this year on a flight to Oakland. I was unable to attend the party because of a previous engagement, but I was told that everyone bought her plenty of lingerie.

One of my male cousins decided to buy my aunt a gag gift. And when I heard what the gag gift was, I died laughing. He’d bought her some edible undies and a pair of handcuffs. For a 74 year old. Hilarious!

My aunt asked, “What am I supposed to do with these?” One of her friends said, “Eddie (my aunt’s fiance) is supposed to eat the edible undies while you’re wearing them.” Without missing a beat, my aunt replied, “Oh. I hope he doesn’t get his teeth caught in them.”

I attended the funeral of my oldest aunt’s husband on yesterday. After most funerals, my family usually gathers at the home of the bereaved family for the repast and to socialize with family members we haven’t seen in a while.

Well, on this day, my family was chatty as usual, but some of the elder females in the family, in their late 60’s to early 70’s, started to question 4 of my female cousins and I as to why we weren’t married with kids. In fact, one of them actually asked us if we were we gay.

Why is it that if a woman is single with no kids and in her 30’s or early 40’s, she has to be gay in the eyes of some people? From time to time, I’ve even gotten this on occasion from people, “What are you waiting on? You’re getting older you know, and pretty soon you won’t be able to have kids.”

I have 3 male cousins and a brother who also are not married and have no kids, but they don’t get this same grilling by the elderly female members of the family. Why are we singled out and not them? What’s wrong with me focusing on my career, then wanting to settle down?

I’ve seen too many divorces from friends and family members who have married and had children early in their lives. It’s not for everyone. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a child or two, but until God is ready for me to do so, I will wait.

If you frequently surf my blog, you know that I talk about my little cousins Jalen and Tyson all the time. They, along with their older brother Jonathan, are the closest thing I have to being my own children.

Well, I found out this morning that Jalen and Tyson are going to have a new baby brother. That will make 4 boys for my cousin and her husband. I should be happy for them, right? Well, I’m not.

Don’t get me wrong, I love children, but my cousin and her husband have been having problems for the past year and she was on the verge of asking for divorce, but now she’s pregnant with her 4th child.

Her husband wasn’t half talking care of the first 3, so why allow yourself to get pregnant with the 4th when you know he ain’t doing shit as a husband, nor as a father. Sure, he spends time with his sons………………..after he shoots hoops all day or play Playstation. Then like an hour before he goes to work at night, that’s the time he gives to the boys. What the fuck?

Now why would you bring a 4th child into that madness? My family and I take care of those boys more than he does. I take it upon myself to help buy them clothes for school, take them to and fro to school, the doctor, etc. when my cousin is working and can’t get off.

I just don’t see how you say that you’re the only one doing something within the marriage and you want a divorce, but yet you allow yourself to keep sleeping with this man and get pregnant. Help me to understand this?